It may not be productive to attempt to bring in something you keep affirming out of your life. This goes for everything! If you say "I wish I had a good job" and "there aren't any good jobs out here" you are literally counteracting your blessings! The job is out there waiting for you to claim it. So is the feeling of confidence, the loving relationship and the bountiful prosperity. Without belief, the reality doesn't change! Thoughts are atoms, so are things and feelings (chemical excretions). Believing in yourself is science!
Wanna go deeper?
Record a voice note of yourself speaking about something that you wish to attain. This can be a goal, a feeling, anything. Be honest in your recording with all of the limitations you feel inside of you. Say why what fears you have in attaining it, doubts you have, why you think you might not be able to find that thing etc. Make it conversational and stream of consciousness.
listen back to it once.
(This may bring up some triggers but remember to SEND LOVE to those parts of you that think this way, because they are the door through which your brain learns to create neuro-chemical processes to bring the feelings that are productive for your comfort.)
Then delete this recording (if that feels right), and record a voice note saying how you wish things were; I think staying conversational helps.
Here are some examples..
If your first recording says,
"I want a fulfilling relationship but I don't think there's anyone at my level"
Change it in the next recording to something like,
"I know there are so many people out there for me, and I'm excited that Im going through what I need to in order to be ready for my perfect partner-- and for them to be ready for me"
(or whatever you naturally want to feel about your ability to be and find a certain person).
If your first recording says,
"I want to love how I look but I dont feel confident."
In your second recording you could say things like,
"stereotypical constructs of beauty are tired and I know that at the end of the day it's my opinion about my beauty that matters. "
or
"Im so grateful to be able to recognize what parts of me dont find this body beautiful, now that I can see them, I know I can address them and let them become parts of me that do"
or
"I know that I was created in infinite perfection, and the body that carries me emanates that same beauty physically. Im fulfilled by my natural appearance and I celebrate it consta